Troy’s Times – November 2007

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article… “What Advice Do You Have for Parents?” Read a letter from a recent client My Partnership with DrugTALK…. Finally, an answer to Drug Abuse for our Young People! My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE See Troy Speak for FREE! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: What Advice Do You Have for Parents?   “The best inheritance a parent can give to his children is few minutes of their time each day.” M. Grundler   Every time I finish one of my presentations I am greeted by a sea of parents. Most of them are in search of the keys to keeping their children away from drugs and out of trouble. The remaining few don’t even need to speak. I can see the looks on their faces and know that they are the same looks that my parents wore so many years ago. They are wondering if it is already too late. My advice to all of them is always the same—keep an open line of communication by any means possible, make sure that your kids are fully educated on the subject, and beware of the “have to mentality” that might be making you take your eye off of that which is most important in your life. What does that mean? Let me tell you what not to do. Don’t wait until you find a joint in your kid’s bedroom and then say, “Smoking this stuff will make you stupid. You’re grounded.” Start talking to your kids about drugs early and often. I mean really early. Kids these days are exposed to drugs at a shockingly young age. I have had the benefit in my role as speaker to become involved with a program called DrugTalk.org. A visit to their website will reveal that current estimates place 84% of families with children at a moderate to high risk of drugs. And, while many parents think that their children are learning enough from the barrage of anti-drug campaigns that they see on television and hear at school, DrugTalk.org cites studies that point to one conclusive fact – nothing, including these multi-million dollar campaigns, has anywhere near the effectiveness of parental involvement through open communication. I would advise any parent to go to the site. They have a great deal of useful information and tools for both you and your kids to keep
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Troy’s Times – September 2007

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article… “How Do I Change the Unchangeable?” Read a letter from a recent client My Partnership with DrugTALK…. Finally, an answer to Drug Abuse for our Young People! My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE See Troy Speak for FREE! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: How Do I Change the Unchangeable?   “Change your thoughts and you change your world.” Norman Vincent Peale   There is no such thing as an unchangeable situation. If there is one message that you should take with you from this article, that is it. Over the years, I have had the benefit of meeting thousands of people. Everyone has their own story. Some people describe personal tragedies, some describe situations that seem impossible to escape, and still others have become so bogged down in their life that they don’t even know how to take a first step anymore. When these people ask for advice, I tell them that there is one thing that can always be changed and that is your attitude. If you tell yourself that there is no way out of a situation over and over again, then you’ll be right. You can go through life pointing at all of the reasons that things will never change. You can lay the reasons out one after the other, point to each of them and say, “see I told you so.” In reality, however, all you’ve done is pointed out all of the excuses you’ve made to build yourself your own internal prison. I can feel the argument boiling up inside of some of my readers. The “you don’t understands” and the “you’re oversimplifying the situations” are already perched on their lips with indignity ready to spring forth. And yet I say, you can always change your attitude. The fact of the matter is, we all have things in our lives that we cannot change. We can’t for example, change the death of a loved one, things that happened to us when we where younger, or the fact that a spouse left us. But, remember what I said in past articles. “It is not important how we come to the events in our life. What is important is how we deal with those events.”   If you are going through life in misery, or things haven’t turned out the way you planned and you’re stuck
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Troy’s Times – August 1st, 2007

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article… “Why Was I Given This Article?” Read a letter from a recent client My Partnership with DrugTALK…. Finally, an answer to Drug Abuse for our Young People! My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE See Troy Speak for FREE! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: Why Was I Given This Article?   If you have a good friend, you don’t need a mirror.   German Proverb   If you’ve been wanting to make a life change, chances are, you were given or forwarded this article by a good friend to help you take those first steps. If that is the case, I hope this helps and I’m glad that I’ve been able to touch your life in some small way. If you haven’t been planning any sort of life change and you can’t imagine why you’ve received this article, then it is probably because someone who loves you, likes you, doesn’t like you so much, works with you, etc. thinks you need to rethink the situation. Maybe they even just left it on your doorstep in a clear attempt at literary ambush. To you I say this, it might be worth taking the suggestion. It is all too common that people only see the things that they want to see and at times it can be hard to look at the things that don’t foot that bill. When I was just a few years into my prison sentence, just starting to get on a roll with my education, we had an incident in the prison. I’m not sure exactly how it started, but for some reason, a couple of members of the Mexican Mafia had a beef with one of the members of one of the black gangs (I don’t remember if it was the Bloods or the Crips and frankly it doesn’t matter). At any rate, these two guys in the Mexican Mafia jumped the other gang member and did some pretty good damage before it was broken up. A couple of days later there was a retaliation and a member of the Mexican Mafia went down. Racial tensions were out of control and everyone’s radar was tuned up extra high. It was no longer enough to simply make sure that you didn’t tick anyone off. Now there was a threat that you would become involved in something just by
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Troy’s Times – July 1st, 2007

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article… “Who Needs Change?” Read a letter from a recent client My Partnership with DrugTALK…. Finally, an answer to Drug Abuse for our Young People! My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE See Troy Speak for FREE! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: Who Needs to Change?   “The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be.” Oprah Winfrey   The answer is, anyone who is not perfect and that absolutely includes me. I have an extreme story. My history is uncommon and I’ve been a lot of places in my life that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. From the standpoint of a speaker who is trying to help others affect change in their own lives, this can be a blessing and a curse. Obviously, for those who need to make some serious changes in their own lives, the parallel might be easily drawn. I am thankful each and every day for being able to touch the lives of those people. On the other hand, there are many of us out there who are going through life each day without addiction, tragedy, financial struggles, etc. In fact, if someone was to ask us how we were doing, we would inevitably tell them that we were…wait for it…“fine.” I am no longer addicted to drugs. I don’t rob banks either. I am an upstanding member of society. I make a good living. I have a family that loves me. There are millions of people in this world who would trade places with me in a heartbeat. And yet, there is always room for improvement. To illustrate, let me give you this example. I am not perfect. Let me tell you why that’s a problem in my life. I’ve laid bare my entire history and I do that on a daily basis. That is my sales pitch when I’m trying to get myself hired. I tell people what a fantastically, diabolical, heart-breaking, dishonest, blight on society I was. Then, I turn around and ask them to enter into a business agreement with me and trust me with their deposit, to show up, show up sober, and not rob their audience once I get there. Is that what they’re thinking? I know for a fact that it is sometimes. And so, in my mind, I’ve decided
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Troy’s Times – June 1st, 2007

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some ch^racters in th1s newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article… “Why Are You Talking to Me?” Read a letter from a recent client My Partnership with DrugTALK…. Finally, an answer to Drug Abuse for our Young People! My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE See Troy Speak for FREE! Sign up for my affiliate progr^m and make money now! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electron1c newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forw^rd this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: Why Are You Talking to Me? “Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.” William Jennings Bryan OK, so this question is usually phrased, how did you get into public speaking? Sometimes that is the question pure and simple. However, different people ask the question for different reasons. For some, the underlying question is not just, how did I become a public speaker, but how did I recover from having screwed my life up so horribly. For others, the question is meant more as an accusation. Sort of a “why are you getting paid for having been a blight on society.” I have answers to all three. I mentioned earlier that the first scholarship that I received when I was trying to fund my education came from the National Speakers Association. While I was really more of a numbers kind of guy (in fact I received my degrees in accounting and business) the general thought on their part was that I would someday use my history to help others. I can’t say, in all honesty, that I saw that as clearly as they did at first. I had screwed my life up so royally; I couldn’t imagine anyone wanting to listen to me talk about it. I wasn’t on the same page as they were, but I was very grateful for the money. At first, I planned on taking just enough communication classes to keep them interested while I continued to look for additional sources of funding. But, as I continued to correspond with my friend and mentor, Robert Henry, and I saw the effect that I was having on my fellow prisoners, I started to see myself as they had seen me. People were noticing the things that I was doing and the effect of it started to grow far beyond me and my own little cell. Gang members were looking for a future without violence,
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Troy’s Times – May 1st, 2007

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article…The Prosecution of Our Past Read a letter from a recent client My Partnership with DrugTALK…. Finally, an answer to Drug Abuse for our Young People! My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE See Troy Speak for FREE! Sign up for my affiliate program and make money now! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: The Prosecution of Our Past   “It’s not what you are that holds you back, it’s what you think you’re not.” Denis Waitley It is not important how we come to the events in our life. What is important is how we deal with those events. Or, as I like to call this article, there is no such thing as a good excuse.” In the past, I have shared tales from my darkest hours as well as stories of my scholarships, reconciliation with my family, and full rehabilitation. I did not share them with you in order to brag. I told them to you with the hope that it would become clear that absolutely anything could be accomplished out here in the free world. If I can accomplish what I did within the harsh and violent confines of the federal prison, you can accomplish absolutely anything you want with all of the resources at your disposal. Early on, I talked about the little voice. The one that tells you why you can’t accomplish your goals. I talked about using hope to banish that voice, but now I’m going to give you the final blow just in case you find that it is still hanging around every now and again. Are you ready? This is going to be pretty profound. Here it is.   That voice is a liar.   Listen to it for a second… “You can’t afford college.” Liar! “You’re too old to change your life.” Liar! “You hit your wife because she deserves it.” Liar! “You can’t quit because your addiction is more potent than other people’s.” Liar! How do I know that the voice is lying? Because those are all excuses and when it comes to what is best for you, there is no such thing as a good excuse. Can’t afford college? Bull, I did it from prison. Too old? I’ve known older. She deserves to be beat? No one deserves that. You suffer from a super potent, mega addiction? Mine made me stick a
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Troy’s Times – February 1st, 2007

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article…Do Time, Don’t Let it do You Read a letter from a recent client My Partnership with DrugTALK…. Finally, an answer to Drug Abuse for our Young People! My Products Download the Pref^ce Chapter of my Book! See Troy Speak for FREE! Sign up for my affiliate progr^m and make money now! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This week’s Featured Article: Take the Key Away From the Guard   “You are what you are and where you are because of what has gone into your mind, and you can change what you are and where you are by changing what goes into your mind.” Zig Ziglar   What goes around comes around, Divine Intervention, Karma, Fate—people have been naming forces behind the paths that we take for millennia. Like I said before, I am not here to argue religious dogma, but I do want to share some truths that I have gleaned from my life’s experiences. They are based in faith. The faith that every person has a purpose and a potential that is waiting to be fulfilled and we are rewarded or schooled based on the choices that we make along that path. Think about all of the things that have happened in your life that make up who you are today. Have you ever had anything go so exactly right that you could only explain it as luck? Did you take advantage of the luck in the best way possible, or did you waste it? Have you ever had something devastating happen to you that has made you ask “Why me?” Did you find an answer to that question? Did you try? There are some children’s books that are called “Choose Your Own Adventure.” They take the reader along a plot line and then, at a key point, ask them to make a crucial decision about what they would do. Once the reader makes the decision, they turn to the page corresponding to that decision and learn their fate. That is kind of how I feel about life. There are numerous outcomes that are already written, but it is up to us to make the right choices. Let’s give it a shot. You’re Troy Evans. You move to a new town and have the choice of toughing it out until you can make new friends on the sports teams and in school, or you start doing bad
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Troy’s Times – January 1st, 2007

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article…Do Time, Don’t Let it do You Read a letter from a recent client My Partnership with DrugTALK…. Finally, an answer to Drug Abuse for our Young People! My Products Download the Pref^ce Chapter of my Book! See Troy Speak for FREE! Sign up for my affiliate progr^m and make money now! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This week’s Featured Article: Do Time, Don’t Let it Do You   “We all have the same amount of time. You have the same amount of time as the average billionaire. It’s not how much time you have, it’s how you use the time you have.” Larry Winget     To realize the value of one year, ask the student who has failed his final exam To realize the value of one month, ask the mother who has given birth to a premature baby. To realize the value of one week, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper. To realize the value of one day, ask the daily wage laborer with ten kids to feed. To realize the value of one hour, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet. To realize the value of one minute, ask the person who has missed the plane. To realize the value of one second, ask the person who has survived an accident. To realize the value of a millisecond, ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics. To realize the value of time, in any increment, ask the person who spent 12.5 years as a slave to drugs, followed by 7.5 years as an incarcerated felon. Time is our most valuable commodity bar none. It is, hands down, the most precious thing we have, yet it is the one thing with which we are most often wasteful. You can’t recycle it, regain it, rejuvenate it, rediscover it, or reuse it. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. Now, I’m not saying we shouldn’t have relaxation time, hobby time, lay on the couch and read a book time, or sit in the sun and do absolutely nothing time. It’s all about balance in our lives. What I’m saying is that you need to respect and cherish it as you would any precious gift and realize that every moment that you spend serving dead time is wasted. Earlier in the book, I told you about my history with my ex-wife. Trust me, we had
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