Troy’s Times – June 2009

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article… “Who Needs to Change?” Read a letter from a recent client NEW PRODUCT- Training Tool for Financial Institutions DVD/CD My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE Join my Affiliate Program See Troy Speak for FREE! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: Who Needs to Change? The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be. Oprah Winfrey The answer is, anyone who is not perfect and that absolutely includes me. I have an extreme story. My history is uncommon and I’ve been a lot of places in my life that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. From the standpoint of a speaker who is trying to help others affect change in their own lives, this can be a blessing and a curse. Obviously, for those who need to make some serious changes in their own lives, the parallel might be easily drawn. I am thankful each and every day for being able to touch the lives of those people. On the other hand, there are many of us out there who are going through life each day without addiction, tragedy, financial struggles, etc. In fact, if someone was to ask us how we were doing, we would inevitably tell them that we were…wait for it…“fine.” I am no longer addicted to drugs. I don’t rob banks either. I am an upstanding member of society. I make a good living. I have a family that loves me. There are millions of people in this world who would trade places with me in a heartbeat. And yet, there is always room for improvement. To illustrate, let me give you this example. I am not perfect. Let me tell you why that’s a problem in my life. I’ve just laid bare my entire history and I do that on a daily basis. That is my sales pitch when I’m trying to get myself hired. I tell people what a fantastically, diabolical, heart-breaking, dishonest, blight on society I was. Then, I turn around and ask them to enter into a business agreement with me and trust me with their deposit, to show up, show up sober, and not rob their audience once I get there. Is that what they’re thinking? I know for a fact that it is sometimes. And so, in my mind, I’ve decided that the only way to counterbalance that is to be perfect. Perfectly on time, perfectly precise in my
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Troy’s Times – May 2009

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article… “Why Are You Talking to Me?” Read a letter from a recent client NEW PRODUCT- Training Tool for Financial Institutions DVD/CD My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE Join my Affiliate Program See Troy Speak for FREE! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: Why Are You Talking to Me? “Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.” William Jennings Bryan OK, so this question is usually phrased, how did you get into public speaking? Sometimes that is the question pure and simple. However, different people ask the question for different reasons. For some, the underlying question is not just, how did I become a public speaker, but how did I recover from having screwed my life up so horribly. For others, the question is meant more as an accusation. Sort of a “why are you getting paid for having been a blight on society.” I have answers to all three. I mentioned earlier that the first scholarship that I received when I was trying to fund my education came from the National Speakers Association. While I was really more of a numbers kind of guy (in fact I received my degrees in accounting and business) the general thought on their part was that I would someday use my history to help others. I can’t say, in all honesty, that I saw that as clearly as they did at first. I had screwed my life up so royally; I couldn’t imagine anyone wanting to listen to me talk about it. I wasn’t on the same page as they were, but I was very grateful for the money. At first, I planned on taking just enough communication classes to keep them interested while I continued to look for additional sources of funding. But, as I continued to correspond with my friend and mentor, Robert Henry, and I saw the effect that I was having on my fellow prisoners, I started to see myself as they had seen me. People were noticing the things that I was doing and the effect of it started to grow far beyond me and my own little cell. Gang members were looking for a future without violence, the prison education counselor was going out of his way
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Troy’s Times – April 2009

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article… “The Prosecution of Our Past” Read a letter from a recent client NEW PRODUCT- Training Tool for Financial Institutions DVD/CD My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE Join my Affiliate Program See Troy Speak for FREE! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: The Prosecution of Our Past “It’s not what you are that holds you back, it’s what you think you’re not.” Denis Waitley It is not important how we come to the events in our life. What is important is how we deal with those events. Or, as I like to call this article, “There is no such thing as a good excuse.” In previous articles, I have shared tales from my darkest hours as well as stories of my scholarships, reconciliation with my family, and full rehabilitation. I did not share them with you in order to brag. I told them to you with the hope that it would become clear that absolutely anything could be accomplished out here in the free world. If I can accomplish what I did within the harsh and violent confines of the federal prison, you can accomplish absolutely anything you want with all of the resources at your disposal. In one article, I talked about the little voice. The one that tells you why you can’t accomplish your goals. I talked about using hope to banish that voice, but now I’m going to give you the final blow just in case you find that it is still hanging around every now and again. Are you ready? This is going to be pretty profound. Here it is. That voice is a liar. Listen to it for a second… “You can’t afford college.” Liar! “You’re too old to change your life.” Liar! “You hit your wife because she deserves it.” Liar! “You can’t quit because your addiction is more potent than other people’s.” Liar! How do I know that the voice is lying? Because those are all excuses and when it comes to what is best for you, there is no such thing as a good excuse. Can’t afford college? Bull, I did it from prison. Too old? I’ve known older. She deserves to be beat? No one deserves that. You suffer from a super potent, mega addiction? Mine made me stick a gun in the faces of innocent people and rob banks. I
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Troy’s Times – March 2009

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article… “Take the Key Away From the Guard” Read a letter from a recent client NEW PRODUCT- Training Tool for Financial Institutions DVD/CD My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE Join my Affiliate Program See Troy Speak for FREE! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: Take the Key Away From the Guard “You are what you are and where you are because of what has gone into your mind, and you can change what you are and where you are by changing what goes into your mind.” Zig Ziglar What goes around comes around, Divine Intervention, Karma, Fate—people have been naming forces behind the paths that we take for millennia. Like I said before, I am not here to argue religious dogma, but I do want to share some truths that I have gleaned from my life’s experiences. They are based in faith. The faith that every person has a purpose and a potential that is waiting to be fulfilled and we are rewarded or schooled based on the choices that we make along that path. Think about all of the things that have happened in your life that make up who you are today. Have you ever had anything go so exactly right that you could only explain it as luck? Did you take advantage of the luck in the best way possible, or did you waste it? Have you ever had something devastating happen to you that has made you ask “Why me?” Did you find an answer to that question? Did you try? There are some children’s books that are called “Choose Your Own Adventure.” They take the reader along a plot line and then, at a key point, ask them to make a crucial decision about what they would do. Once the reader makes the decision, they turn to the page corresponding to that decision and learn their fate. That is kind of how I feel about life. There are numerous outcomes that are already written, but it is up to us to make the right choices. Let’s give it a shot. You’re Troy Evans. You move to a new town and have the choice of toughing it out until you can make new friends on the sports teams and in school, or you start doing bad things to make friends with the kids most available to
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Troy’s Times – February 2009

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article… “Do Time, Don’t Let it Do You” Read a letter from a recent client NEW PRODUCT- Training Tool for Financial Institutions DVD/CD My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE Join my Affiliate Program See Troy Speak for FREE! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: Do Time, Don’t Let it Do You “We all have the same amount of time. You have the same amount of time as the average billionaire. It’s not how much time you have, it’s how you use the time you have.” Larry Winget To realize the value of one year, ask the student who has failed his final exam To realize the value of one month, ask the mother who has given birth to a premature baby. To realize the value of one week, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper. To realize the value of one day, ask the daily wage laborer with ten kids to feed. To realize the value of one hour, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet. To realize the value of one minute, ask the person who has missed the plane. To realize the value of one second, ask the person who has survived an accident. To realize the value of a millisecond, ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics. To realize the value of time, in any increment, ask the person who spent 12.5 years as a slave to drugs, followed by 7.5 years as an incarcerated felon. Time is our most valuable commodity bar none. It is, hands down, the most precious thing we have, yet it is the one thing with which we are most often wasteful. You can’t recycle it, regain it, rejuvenate it, rediscover it, or reuse it. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. Now, I’m not saying we shouldn’t have relaxation time, hobby time, lay on the couch and read a book time, or sit in the sun and do absolutely nothing time. It’s all about balance in our lives. What I’m saying is that you need to respect and cherish it as you would any precious gift and realize that every moment that you spend serving dead time is wasted. Earlier I told you about my history with my ex-wife. Trust me, we had our fair share of differences over the years as many couples no longer together
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Troy’s Times – January 2009

Hi Friend! Welcome to Troy’s free monthly electronic newsletter, developed for people interested in overcoming adversity, adapting to change and pushing oneself to realize their full potential. (Some characters in this newsletter have been altered to keep it from being filtered out as spam) IN THIS ISSUE Feature Article… “Lock up Your Loved Ones” Read a letter from a recent client NEW PRODUCT- Training Tool for Financial Institutions DVD/CD My Products – NEW HARDBACK BOOK IS NOW AVAILABLE Join my Affiliate Program See Troy Speak for FREE! Click here to sign up for this e-zine! Earn a large commission for recommending me as a speaker! Subscriber opinions and impressions of this electronic newsletter as well as reader profiles FREE STUFF! “It is not important How we come to the events in our lives, but how we Deal with those events”- Troy Feel free to forward this issue to friends, family and associates! This Month’s Featured Article: Lock up Your Loved Ones “All you need is love.” John Lennon When I discovered I was being released from prison five years earlier than I had expected, my family and I kept it a secret from my son, Eric. It just so happened that my release date was thirteen days before Christmas, so my parents quickly made arrangements for Eric to spend Christmas vacation with them in Phoenix. This didn’t raise any red flags for Eric because he had been doing this every other year for this past seven years. On the day that my son flew into Phoenix Sky Harbor International Airport, my father, mother, brother, sister and I drove down to greet Eric. My mother, father and sister went to the gate Eric was scheduled to arrive at, and my brother and I stayed back four gates, I on one side of the hallway with a hat and sunglasses on, my brother on the other side with a video camera, taping the entire scene. As Eric got off the plane my parents and sister greeted him with hugs and kisses, and after exchanging pleasantries began heading in my direction. At this time, I stepped away from the wall and began walking towards them. As I approached them I stepped in front of the group and said, excuse me could someone please tell me what time it is? Out of the corner of my eye I could see my son’s face, his mouth wide open and his eyes as big as saucers. Answering my question my mom said, “It’s 7:30.” “Thank you very much,” I said and stepped around them, continuing on. Behind me I could hear my son saying, “That was my dad!” My father said, “That wasn’t your Dad, Eric, you know where your Dad is.” A second passed and my son said, “I’m telling you, Grandpa, that was my Dad. Go get him!” That, of course, was all I could take and I spun around, ran back to my son and spent the next five minutes hugging, kissing and crying. I definitely blew
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